Alright folks, buckle up. This one’s about my date with Lisa last Saturday. Didn’t start out smooth, but figured out some things along the way that actually worked. Sharing the raw play-by-play.
The Whole Lisa Situation
Met Lisa through a mutual buddy last month at Dave’s BBQ. Seemed cool, into indie movies and hiking – my kinda vibe. Got her number but honestly, felt awkward texting. Kept it super generic like “Hey, how’s it going?” for weeks. Going nowhere fast. Needed to actually do something.
Way #1: Actually Remembering Stuff She Said (& Using It!)
Okay, this sounds basic, right? But how often do we just nod along? I actually went back in my texts and remembered two things:
- She mentioned loving that little Thai place downtown weeks ago.
- She brought up this new indie film festival happening.
So I ditched the lazy texts. Sent this instead:
“Yo, saw trailers for that film fest you mentioned! Looks wild. Also, craving Thai food next week – know any good spots? 😉”
Boom. Instant reply. She lit up about the festival being her favourite time of year, and yes, that Thai place is fire. Used the info = showed I listened = opened the door.
Way #2: Planning the Mutual Vibe Thing, Not My Idea
Old me would’ve just picked a dinner spot and said “Let’s go here Friday?” Instead, I suggested based on what she already liked:
“Thai food & indie films? Kinda like a theme… How about lunch at your Thai haunt before catching a flick at the fest?”
Made it about her interests we’d just chatted about, not just some random place. She felt involved, not just ordered around. She loved the idea. Wasn’t me imposing, it was us sharing.
Way #3: Stop Overthinking It & Just Be There
Day of the date? Nerves kicked in. Started rehearsing jokes, panicking about parking. Then I remembered my own rules. Chilled out. Got there early, grabbed a coffee near the restaurant. Didn’t drill her with questions like an interview. Actually listened when she talked about the documentary she was excited to see after lunch.
- Focused on her, not my sweaty palms.
- Laughed at myself when I fumbled my coffee cup.
- Asked follow-up questions about her stories, not just waiting for my turn.
Just… existed in the moment with her. Felt way more natural.
So, Did It Work?
Honestly? Yeah. Lunch was solid. Movie doc was intense, sparked good convo. Ended up walking around the festival stalls for an extra hour. No awkward goodbye hug – planned a second hike next weekend right there and then. No games.
Simple takeaways?
- Pay attention & USE that intel (it’s the secret key).
- Make plans with her vibe, not against it.
- Breathe & actually connect in the moment.
No magic tricks. Just paying attention and showing up. Lisa approved. Hopefully helps someone else not text “Hey, how’s it going?” into the void for weeks.